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Chapter Four
Steps Introduction | The Awakening | Determination | Acceptance | Responsibility | Ownership | Un attachment | Surrender | Forgiveness |
God is Forgiving
Words of Wisdom
A Course in Miracles
Forgive the past and let it go, for it is gone.
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You who want peace can find it only by complete forgiveness.
A Course in Miracles
The real world is attained simply by the complete forgiveness of the old.
A Course in Miracles
Those who do not forgive you fear. And no one reaches Love with fear beside him.
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Forgiveness always rests upon the one who offers it.
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Step 8 ~ Forgiveness
Forgiveness is the last and most important step one will take on the path of healing.
However, it can be very difficult to be able to forgive when one has been harmed by others, which is due to the belief that if one forgives another of harm that was done against them, they would be letting the person off the hook from being held responsible or punished for their wrong actions.
It can also be just as difficult to forgive ourselves of harm we have inflicted on others, which the person tends to carry within themselves feelings of guilt and shame of having harmed another, and feel they need to punish themselves.
When you are on the path of healing, and you have any un forgiveness towards others or yourself, then that un forgiveness will hold you back from taking the last step that leads to total healing, which will also hold you back from taking a step on the path of Self-Transcendence.
You see, when you have un forgiveness towards another, it means you have an attachment to what that person did or said to you. That attachment you have to that person will bind you to them. And if you are trying to take steps forward on your path of healing, you're not going to get very far, because those people will hold you back.
As you forgive those from your past, the less people you will be bound too, which means less people holding you back on the path of Self-Transcendence.
The Tie That Binds
I would like you to think about the people from your past who you may not have forgiven. Then I would like you to imagine being handcuffed to those people. And then imagine that all those people your handcuffed to, also have un forgiveness towards people from their own lives which they are also handcuffed to. Then imagine all those people also have un forgiveness towards people from their own lives who are handcuffed to even more people.
If you can imagine all those people being handcuffed together and you being one of those people. How long would it take for you to want to be free from them all? And what if you were told that the only way to be free from them was to forgive them. How quickly would it take you to forgive those people? I'm sure it wouldn't take very much time for you to forgive them and set yourself free.
When you forgive those who have harmed you, you aren't setting them free, you are setting yourself free. You can walk away from them knowing that they are all still handcuffed to each other, and will continue to be until they take the step of forgiving as well. But often times people will not set themselves free, because they believe that if they forgive those people then those people will not be held responsible or punished for what they did, and so they live their entire lives being tied to the very people who harmed them.
If you think about it, who in their right mind would want to be tied to people who harmed them. You see, as long as you are tied to these people, they will continue to harm you and they will keep harming you until you set yourself free from them. And you set yourself free from them by forgiving them.
Un forgiveness creates karma and having karma with others creates karmic ties that binds people to each other. To completely free yourself from having a karmic tie with others is forgiving all those who you feel have wronged you in some way.
You Reap What You Sow
Karma is described in the Bible as. "God is not mocked, a person reaps what they have sown." This statement means that what one has done to another, will be done unto them. This also applies to those who judge others as well, which they will be judged in the same measure they judge others.
What some people don't seem to take into consideration is that when a person reaps the actions they take on others, is not something that just happens in the future, but they are also reaping those actions in their current life from past lifetimes. So if you have been harmed by actions from others, then it's most likely your past actions returning to you in this current lifetime. If you understand this and can accept this, then you can use this knowledge to help you on your path of healing.
I understand that for a lot of people that accepting what harm has come their way is them reaping what they had sown from past lives can be difficult. But as it says. "God is not mocked, a person reaps what they have sown." And that includes you, me, and everyone who has ever lived.
Having un forgiveness towards others will cause for you to constantly be recreating the inner wounds that originally came from another's actions towards you. In other words, what you are doing when you don't forgive others is you are sowing un forgiveness, and then reaping the constant recreation of the harm that was done to you.
When you forgive, you set yourself free from recreating the harm that was inflicted on you, you free yourself from any ties that formed between you and the harmer, plus you stop creating karma for yourself. And the big one of considering that some of your past karma had been returned to you, which is your opportunity to see that you may have a beam in your own eye.
Responsibility
When you look for the beam in your own eye, you are taking responsibility for yourself by looking into your life and seeing if there was a time or two that you may have done a wrong to another. If you have, then why hold un forgiveness towards others who have done the same wrongs you have, or even similar wrongs?
Look at it this way. Lets say you're driving down the street and the driver next to you flips you off. Your reaction to that may cause you to be offended, hurt, angry and maybe even shocked. You're either going to want to go on the attack, or you'll take it personal and feel like a victim.
But if you look at it in another light, which is what you didn't realize is that you had cut that person off a few blocks back and you almost caused an accident. That person was angry with you and had just caught up with you to let you know how they felt about what you did, so the person flipped you off to let you know. But you are totally in the dark for why you were flipped off.
You can take a situation like this and make it part of your path of healing. Which is you can look for that beam in your own eye and that person could look for the beam in their own eye. You see, when you cut that person off, then that was karma returning to them from a time when they had cut someone off and almost caused an accident. But it's obvious they are not taking responsibility for their past actions and looking for the beam in their own eye. Which what they choose to do is not your responsibility.
But even though, you didn't know why that person flipped you off, you can still use that situation to look into your past and see if there were times when you had flipped people off, and then think about the reasons why you flipped them off, which they may not have known why you did. And that could have caused them to feel how you did when you got flipped off. So, you can see in a situation like this that your karma had just returned to you. And so, you would not have any reason to hold un forgiveness towards that person.
It is little things like this that can help you forgive others of the wrongs they commit against you, because instead of looking at what wrongs others have committed, you are looking for the beam in your own eye so you can remove it. So as you continue to remove the beams from your own eye the easier it is to forgive others. Because by this point when you come across any situation, you can say to yourself. "I've been there, done that, and have overcome it. And they can too, if they choose to take responsibility for themselves and remove their own beams from their own eyes."
Forgiveness Leads to Freedom
The more you work on the path of healing from your past wounds and replacing the false beliefs with true beliefs. You will find that you will become more and more non-attached to what others say or do, which makes it easier to forgive, and by forgiving others will keep you free from having karmic ties to those people.
You see, no one in heaven ever holds grudges against others, because those in heaven are unconditional forgiveness. And they can be unconditional forgiveness because they respect the gift of Free-Will. Having the gift of Free-Will is having the ability to make mistakes and then learn from those mistakes. And learning from those mistakes will help a person take the steps on the spiritual path of Self-Transcendence to Being More I AM.
If you could imagine that all those from your past who had ever harmed you had made karma for themselves, which will eventually return to them so they can learn from it and rise above the state of consciousness that caused for them to have made that karma. Would you be able to respect their Free-Will and forgive those people, or would you still continue to have un forgiveness towards them that create karmic ties between you and them?
The path of healing will help you get to the point where you can forgive others unconditionally, because the more you heal your past inner wounds, the more non-attached you become to what others do or say.
Steps to Healing
It is important to remember that when you are working to heal from your inner wounds and replacing false beliefs with true beliefs, that it's a gradual path your taking towards healing the all of you. Which you work on one area of your life at a time, and then as you heal one area of your life, then you work on another area of your life. and so, you continue to repeat the steps on the path or healing until one day you are completely healed in every area of your life.
You see, if a person tried to heal every area of their life at the same time, they would not make much progress. It would be like trying to drive a car in park and wondering why the car isn't moving and thinking that giving it more gas will make the car move.
I would like to end this page by giving you a list of the steps that can help you lead to total healing.
From the list below you can replace "false belief" with the area you are working to heal from, and remember you are looking to answer any of the questions of who? what? when? where? why? and how? for each step your working on healing from.
The first Step is Awakening to the false belief.
The second step is being determined to work on eradicating the false belief.
The third step is accepting that you accepted to believe in the false belief.
The forth step is taking responsibility for the false belief.
The fifth step is taking ownership of the false belief.
The sixth step is becoming unattached to the false belief.
The seventh step is Surrendering the false belief.
The eighth step is forgiving yourself for having had the false belief.
As you work to heal your inner wounds on the steps to healing, please remember to also use the spiritual tools, violet flame decrees and Mother Mary's rosaries as it is all part of the path of healing.