Chapter One

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Chapter One - Being Yourself

Being yourself means you Love and respect yourself so much that you will not let any force in this world move you to being something you know you're not, which is not being the things that are of this world. It also means accepting yourself just as you are right now, while working towards Being More of who You Truly Are.

For a person who is new to the path of Self-Transcendence will want to start on the path by just learning to be yourself. You see, when you start the path of Being, you start by observing how you are being in your life. Which is asking yourself in any situation you're in, if you are being yourself, or if you're not being yourself. You do this so you can catch yourself when you're not being true to being who you are, while you take notes of those times.

Which at first, you're not going to work on eradicating those areas from your life yet, you're just going to observe while continuing to be yourself, even when you're not being yourself.

But once you have spent a good amount of time observing and being able to see the difference in yourself of when you're being and when you're not being yourself. You can then begin looking for why you're not always able to be yourself.

The False Self

When a person observes the areas for why they are not being themself all the time, is often times someone who is trying to be what others want them to be, or being who they rather be like, and thinking that they have to be those things inorder to fit in, and to be accepted in the eyes of others, such as family, friends, or co-workers. And it even includes those who are trying to immitate the fashions and behaviors one will find in the entertainment industry, such as Hollywood celebrities and the like.

For a person wanting to fit in, and being accepted by others while pretending to be something they are not, isn't allowing themself to be who they truly are. And so a person must choose at this point if they really want to Be who they Truly are, or if they want to continue to pretend to be something they aren't, which is the false self.

However, when you are just starting out on the path of Self-Transcendence, you need to be who you are of where you're at in your life, while taking the first step of observing when you're being and not being yourself, followed by taking the steps to eradicate the areas of your false self, so you can move towards being your True Self. Your True Self is there buried under the false self, and so as you take the steps towards being your true self, your true self will surface more and more with every step you take.

The Struggle of Being Yourself

I understand it can be hard when being yourself around others, but what you do is take small steps towards being yourself.

Throughout my life, I've always tried to stay true to who I was, because I always had this inner feeling of not changing for anyone or anything, such as going along with something I felt was wrong, or I was just not interested in doing. But there had been times when I did feel the strong need to not completely be myself around certain people, as there had been times when a heated argument could have started if I didn't alter my behavior around the person or people. But even then, I felt a sense of guilt within me that I betrayed myself, by not having the courage to stay true to who I was and not change my behavior or change what I was going to say due to not wanting to ruffle a few feathers. I've found that I would rather do whatever it took to avoid drama, even when it came to me being disrespected by others. So, I would alter my behavior to avoid confrontation with others instead of sticking up for myself, or even my beliefs.

I have relatives who are full of hatred towards the Ascended Masters, and there were times when I would be at their house and they would bring up their hate talk about them, which they knew I believed in them and they were my spiritual teachers. But every time I would not say a word to defend the Masters or how I felt about their degrading and demeaning remarks about the Masters or my beliefs. All I would want to do was get up and leave, which I would do as soon as I could.

I felt at the time, that their words would eventually come back to haunt them with or without my saying anything to them about their hate talk. But at the same time, I felt I betrayed the Masters and even myself of not speaking up. But one day, I did finally speak up, and after I was finished with what I had to say I left and I never went back. They still continue to have their hate talks about me, my beliefs and the Ascended Masters, but I don't care as it's their karma they are making for themselves, and they will reap that karma someday.

And so, I learned over time to just stay away from the people I could not feel comfortable enough with to where I could just be myself around them. I've learned gradually over the years how not to compromise who I am for other people, no matter the cost.

Who is the real You

I have met people who claim to never change who they are when around others, and they claim they don't care what others think, or say to, or about who they are as a person. But when I ask the following question, the answer comes back with a giggle or a nod of letting me know that maybe they have and do alter their behavior at times and just didn't realize it. The question I ask is this. "Do you behave differently with your friends than when you are with your parents?" The answer 90% of the time comes back with a big YES they do alter their behavior.

So, for many of us, we do change our behavior when we are around our parents than when we are with our friends. So, the next question I ask is, "who is the real you?" "Does the real you show up when you are with your friends, or when you are with your parents?"

So, the first step towards being yourself is knowing which is the real you, along with knowing what areas of your life you are putting up a false front. And knowing why you are putting up a false front in front of one group of people and not the other. It could be that you feel your friends would not accept who you are if you were to behave around them the way you behave around your parents. Or it could be your religious beliefs aren't the same as your parents, so you might pretend to agree with their beliefs just so you won't have to listen to the negative feedback from your parents about your beliefs.

The real you wants to be accepted and Loved for who you are, but we often times find that the real us is not welcomed when we are around others, so our real selves goes into hiding so we can be accepted and Loved, but when we are not being our real selves, this is a false acceptance and a false Love that comes from others for ourselves. The real you knows this, which you still feel the need to have real acceptance and real Love for yourself by others.

You see, when you can be the real you with others, you will attract to you people that are able to be who they truly are around you as well, and you can then be more of your real self with people, who you still have lots of things in common with, but you are still able to stay true to who you really are. But if you're hiding your true self from others, they are most likely hiding their true self from you, so neither are being real with each other.

Giving away your Control

Most people, by nature, want to control others and control their environment out of their own need to protect themselves from harm, or for personal gain, or due to just having a desire to control others. But all in all, it's usually based on a person wanting to protect themselves from others. So there are those people who seek to control you and try to get you to be what they want you to be, and behave how they want you to behave. Which I've found that it's almost impossible to be who you are with every person you come in contact with, because of the issue of control that comes from others in our lives.

But when we hide the real us from others, it is very much giving them control over ourselves, and it's our way of protecting ourselves from them as well. And what we are protecting ourselves from is the opposition to our Being that comes from those who seek to control our behavior. Let's face it, we do not like being confronted with opposition to our Being, so it's much easier to just alter the real us to keep the peace. And so it's much easier to give away our control and alter our real selves so we don't have to face the opposition that gets thrown our way from others.

However, the real you does not like to be controlled by others, but yet, when we are not being the real us, we are letting others control us. We can not control others, but yet, we let others control us by allowing our real selves to be hidden when we are around certain individuals or groups of people. And it is high time we stop allowing others to control the real us. A good way to learn self respect is by making the decision to stay true to who you are no matter who you are with, and no matter the opposition from others, because you Love yourself too much to let others control who you are.

When you know the reason behind others wanting to control the real you, which is them wanting to protect themselves from you. You can take back your control by staying true to who you are, and know that you can be the example for others to Be themselves and to know that they do not need to control you to protect themselves from you, because you want them to be themselves too.

Emotions and Feelings

The real you is going to change according to your emotions, such as if you are happy, than the real you is going to be happy. If you are sad, than the real you is going to be sad. So, being the real you is not going to be stagnant, but is going to change as your emotions change. But if you were sad and you pretended to be happy and altered your behavior to show that you are happy, then you are not being the real you.

There are times in our lives when we feel we must cover over our true feelings to spare the feelings of those around us, or needing to sacrifice our feelings for others, which is ok to do during certain circumstances, such as the case for the story that is on this page titled Am I My Sister?.

It's when we feel we need to hide our feelings from others due to feeling like we will not be accepted or understood if we let our feelings show around others. Such as if you're angry and you want to let someone know you are angry, then it's ok to let the person know and then let them know why you're angry. It's automatic that we would let them know it's not towards them, but from something else.

If we bottle up our anger and aren't able to express our anger in a healthy way is when feelings become repressed, and over time those repressed feelings will surface and we will not be ourselves at those moments. So, the real you would be covered over by the expression of repressed anger coming through you, which later we learn that we said things we did not mean to say. And often times we don't know where those words we said came from, and that is because you were not being the real you.

The real you is going to have feelings and emotions. The real you doesn't want to suppress how you're feeling or what emotions you might be going through. The real you wants to break out and be a Free Being who can be yourself and be accepted for who you are no matter what feelings you may be expressing at any given time. But you see, we do not need to be accepted by others, we need to accept ourselves and Love the real us. Our real selves don't depend on what others think or say about us, because at the end of the day, we answer to ourselves not others.

To me, I believe God created each of us to have our own unique identities, to have our own individual consciousness, to have our own personalities, and have our own expressions that is not like anyone else on this planet. So, there is no one on this planet that is exactly like you. Sure we all share in the big pot of having emotions and feelings, but we are going to express those emotions and feelings in our own unique way. Which leads me to the subject of mimicker.

The real you is not a mimicker

I have met many people throughout my life, which the majority of these people are part of religious or some spiritual organizations. I find more than anything that people who are part of most religious organizations, can not think for themselves, which it's like they share in a group consciousness. They all dress the same, behave the same, think the same, believe the same, they talk the same, and they just remind me of a bunch of mindless robots that can not think for themselves, but can only repeat a belief that is shared by the group consciousness. If you are part of such a group, and you say your group respects each others own expressions, then if that is true, you will feel no need to defend your group to me or to anyone. The only reason any one would defend their religious group to me is if you were guilty of sharing in the group consciousness, otherwise, there is no other reason to defend your group.

Those who share in a group consciousness goes against the purpose of our creation, because God created each of us with an individual consciousness, not a group consciousness. I believe in oneness, but oneness is not sameness.

I wrote a page dedicated to explaining Oneness, but here is a quick example of how oneness is not sameness. So, lets take the example of "Numbers" if we were to look at the number 1 - 5 - 7 and 9, we will see that each of these numbers are different, which they are not the "same" numbers, but each of these numbers share a "oneness" with each other, which is that they form oneness by being "Numbers" People who would believe that oneness is sameness would believe that each number would have to be the same and that would give us only one number such as 5 - 5 - 5 and 5. So, people who share in a group consciousness are like those who believe that in order for numbers to be at one with each other, there can only be one number and not different numbers to have oneness.

So, do you see how those in groups are able to have that oneness with each other, but still be able to be their own person, their own unique individual self, which would be the real them with each other and that they do not need to mimic how everyone else is in the group. Our oneness comes from the fact that God created us, and that we were created with our own unique consciousness so that we will express our own uniqueness with each other. How can people be creative and be co-creators on this planet if we all share in the same consciousness. Two heads are better than one, as the old saying goes, and that is because no two people are supposed to think alike but have their own unique creativity about themselves.

Being Yourself

Part of why we were born in the Material world is because we each bring a unique quality, a unique gift to this world. Without each one of us being able to be our own person and express ourselves in our own way, you are cheating yourself and everyone else of that Gift you came here with. We all make a difference in this world. But we can not make a difference if we hide who we are from others. We can not make a difference if we hide our Light that we came here to let shine. We can not make a difference if we hide our gifts we came here to share with others. And we can not make a difference if we hide our talents we carried over from our past lives.

I hear it takes one person to make a difference, and that person could be you, but first you must learn to be yourself and to accept yourself for who you are, and dare to be all that you are. You can be an example for others to be themselves as well, just by you being yourself of who you are. And I will say it again, all it takes is one person to make a difference. So, are you that person, or are you going to leave it up to someone else while you bury your talents in the ground? I hope you will be the person who steps forward and makes a difference.

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